The Proof is in the Pudding

“The proof is in the pudding.” The geneticist called immediately after she received the results of our microarray on Evelyn. Her chipper voice sang through the phone. Her smile, held up by enthusiasm, sparkled through her words.

For months, the doctors presumed Evelyn had a genetic condition. Her fate was overshadowed by Sophia’s. She was monitored ad nauseam, like a tiny ant burning under the radiant heat of a magnifying glass in the sunlight. High risk doctors accelerated the alarm, turning our regular OBs into lemmings.

We knew something was different. We knew the pregnancy felt better, healthier, stronger. We knew this would not turn out like Sophia. Our words, protests, concerns, and optimism fell on deaf ears. Time and again we were told Evelyn would have a serious condition. She was expected to have spina bifida, heart defects, trisomy 18–and most likely a serious, rare, unviable genetic condition.

When the phone rang early Friday morning, and the geneticist’s uplifting tone confirmed our long-held suspicions, my tears stained my pant legs, dripping uncontrollably. The salty sobs released the vindication, validation, relief, anger, anxiety–and ultimately the joy–for which we have so longed.

“While the microarray does not test for every possible genetic condition, it tests for a lot. As far as I am concerned, the proof is in the pudding. As long as Evelyn grows and responds well to her therapy, I have no reason to believe there is a genetic component.”

How I wish we could take this back to every doctor who doubted us. How I wish we could see the look on the face of the doctor who expected Evelyn to die within a week of finding her “heart defect”. How I wish we could get an apology for all the trauma, distress, and pain the doctors caused during this pregnancy.

Instead, we move ahead. We know we were right. We know the proof is really in the pudding.

Published by lkgaddis

I have been working on this memoir-style project for a while now, and I'm excited to share it with others. My hope is to get as wide an audience as possible, and to receive comments, suggestions, and ideas to improve and expand what I have. I also want to encourage others to become curious about the topic of babies, and the loss that can come with the adventures of trying to start a family. In the world of celebrating healthy babies, we who know otherwise need a voice too.

2 thoughts on “The Proof is in the Pudding

  1. Laura & Jason As I sit here and read this with tears in my eyes. I am so so thankful for the great news. I am thankful for the positive thoughts you kept. I consider her our miracle baby and she will grow up and be a beautiful strong lady. Looking forward to holding her again. Love , Aunt Bonnie

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  2. I read this post before, but for whatever reason could not comment at the time. I am absolutely ecstatic to hear this great news! Evelyn is such a precious and beautiful little trooper! I know that the great news will only keep coming for this sweet doll baby.

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